Did I miss something? Never saw any replies to your post. There are now many options for people, that just like the boys, involve seeking opportunities elsewhere. I know of a few that went to esteemed Prep schools for example, and having done so, are probably more likely to matriculate to college hockey than if they had stayed and played for the LD.
At least at this point there are a couple of options in state, where before there was only LD and perhaps S, but either way, the options for playing hockey in California are limited, and even moreso, for girls. The LAL's U14 is going to Nationals this season, so it's only a matter of time before they will have alumni playing in college.
FWIW, I think you accomplished what you wanted to, which was to call out this lady by name, but I will say that your post lacks any specific details that illustrate what lead you to your opinion. You can take almost any coach at any program and find people who will tell you that they were the best coach ever, and find someone else who will tell you they were the worst.