Is there a 'please everyone' answer to the select camp process? Probably not. For those unsure of what exactly the SCAHA select camp is, it's the starting process for selection to the USA national player development camps. The national camp brings together the best players from each district to compete amongst each other over the course of the week. Scouts from colleges, prep schools, and top junior leagues flock to these events.
Enjoy the process. There's no rush to your son's development as a player. If they make the camp roster, that's awesome. If they don't, use it as motivation but don't blame anyone else, that's a cop out. During Select Camp time I always talk to parents about the Tyler Johnson story. The same Tyler Johnson that currently is a top 6 forward for the Tampa Bay Lightning. Tyler was an undersized player from Spokane, Washington. He never once made it out of the Pacific District Camp into the National Camp. He wasn't a 16 year old prodigy. He was always a very good player with an incredible work ethic. He wasn't in a rush, he just worked his a** off and kept grinding. He had to play Junior B in the NorPac to finally get an opportunity with his hometown Spokane Chiefs in the WHL. He played out his entire junior age eligibility which included leading the whole WHL in scoring his last season. He was still never drafted. He played his entire first pro year in the AHL, leading the team in scoring, still no NHL call up. It took him 62 games into his 2nd season in AHL (while still leading his team in scoring) to get his call up to the NHL and he has never looked back since.
Tell that story to your kids, soak it in yourself, whatever it takes to stop comparing yourself to other players. If your son is better today than he was yesterday, then the process is taking care of itself. Great players will be found, regardless of where they play or what 'select camps' 'elite teams' or whatever else they're on. Enjoy the youth hockey process, there's nothing like it.