I am not a Wave 1 parent.
If your kid is on the smaller side and is getting crushed by a kid then, you are going to yell goon, others would call it physical play. Physical play for Bantams is very subjective and every team has a hot head.
Interesting that you're leaning towards blaming the victims rather than the culprit... I have no issues with a smaller kid getting crushed, as long as the hit was CLEAN, not late and not malicious. This is bantam hockey and we all know what we're getting into. But Wave1's brand of hockey is clearly questionable and I have experienced it first hand when they played my kid's team. You're not wrong saying every team has a hothead, Wave1 just happens to have multiple of those and it's apparent that the coaches either no longer have control or are instructing them to behave as such. Either way is sad and disturbing.
Bantam hockey can be subjective but when you have multiple ejections plus 2&10's every single game, truth can no longer be denied. Winning or losing is secondary but SAFETY is paramount. Sooner or later CAHA and/or karma will catch up and Wave1 will be disciplined. Although coaches can be blamed for their team's on/off ice behavior, players themselves at this age, must be accountable for their actions.
Running up the score?! Generally I'm not a fan of it but in this case, it seems more of a distraction. The real issue should be why are Wave1 kids collecting penalties like it's going out of style and perhaps their goalie should've been more disciplined and not get himself kicked out, especially knowing he's the only goalie they have.