Such great dialogue.
I would agree that positive, encouraging support from parents/mentors is critical for all young people in sports or academics or just about anything. Of course. Reminding a kid that he needs to work hard to meet his goals is reasonable and normal. When the support tilts to the overbearing though, well it makes a lot more sense to pressure a kid with flagging personal drive on schoolwork than it does for sports. But if sports is your poison, make sure the father-son relationship survives with love and respect intact. I would also stay with thought that because of the scarcity of jobs in pro hockey, if a kid isn't exceptionally self-motivated, maybe it is just something he enjoys an awful lot but it is not a realistic adult career choice.
There is a lot of passion here. If it could be harnessed in a positive way, just imagine the possibilities. I'm not sure how it is in Scaha, but there are youth hockey boards up here in Norcal that hold elections for vacant seats every year. They'd be sure to welcome help from a heavily invested, constructive, thoughtful individual with good ideas. The process of working with others might be challenging, but ultimately worthwhile.